I am thrilled to introduce you to writer, Jr. High youth pastor, and my dear friend,Casey Hayden. He is a graduate from the University of North Dakota with a bachelors in Rehabilitation and Human Services. We met in college and he has greatly impacted and challenged how I view God and how I seek truth. Although we may not agree on all things, his heart and passion for God and people is unique and one that I truly admire. He is also one of the goofiest people I know, always capable of making me laugh. I look forward to you getting a taste of what Casey has to say in regards to men and their emotions. So without further ado…
Why Men are Basket Cases, too
There are a lot of stigmas out there that men are not emotional beings. We were not created to understand our emotions. We are not created to have any quality of femininity.
Do you see the problem with that?
There are sociological imposed convictions as to why men lift weights, and women shop and cry. Do we see the danger in this?
Or how about this, women are allowed to see chick flicks, and men, if they don’t watch Braveheart, are going to be called effeminate names.
But internally, Men, we are basket cases. We were not created to be cookie cut into the shape designed by a society around us. We have this tension between who we are and what society deems appropriate. So many men place their identity inside their masculinity and their ability to obtain power. Then once society stripes us of ANY of that, we become confused. We become unsure of our identity anymore. And when one is unsure of their identity, then one is a basket case.
So lets break this down into a few quick points:
Men are emotional
We are. Seriously. Men understand and grasp their emotions. On occasion they are simple, and on other occasions they are not so simple. Either way, they stem from a very complex psyche. Emotions are derived from the brain, so to say that men do not understand emotions, or do not have emotions is a very illogical argument. Men have they same amount of emotions as women. How we live out those emotions may be very different, in some circumstances, but we still have those same emotions.
Men have estrogen and women have testosterone. Men and women have serotonin receptors and serotonin. Men and Women have an amgydala in the lower brain. We both have the biological make-up that seems to be close to identical. What is interesting is how important those hormones are. Testosterone (which is higher in some men) plays into our emotions and how we interact with life. Estrogen (which is higher in some men) plays into our emotions and how we interact with life. So biological, our argument lies primarily with the hormones, which is weak because hormones are a chemical released in the body.
The difference between men and women when it comes to emotions and being basket cases has to do supremely with how we allow emotions to be lived out. Men, based off this argument, are emotional. We live out our emotions. Complacency and apathy are emotions (which society believes all men have and only have).
We are emotional. We have emotions that feel just as deeply as women. However, we have a barrier (just like women) which is we have a society that tells us which are appropriate and which are not. (which in turn creates internal emotions which creates pre-basket case syndrome)
(more to come…)