I couldn’t be more thrilled to introduce you to a very dear friend of mine, Alisha Overby. Over the years, we’ve experienced quite an array of life “stuff” together. We were even weight-lifting buddies. She has been one of THE most encouraging people to watch grow. God has moved in her life in some incredible ways.
Alisha is a student at the University of North Dakota studying English and she is a full-time intern with a Christian student ministry. She is gifted in communicating, as you will see in this blog. Alisha is also gifted in making me laugh and serenading me (and others) on the guitar. For me, she has a way of “making sense”of things. When Alisha commented on my previous blog, I was touched by the TRUTH in her words and wanted to share them with you. So without further ado…
“Vulnerability is not usually fun (at least not at first), especially for those of us who are more introverted, you are correct there. I feel like I maybe have a unique perspective, being 55% introverted and 45% extraverted (whatever that means exactly). Here’s the deal, people do hurt us. I have been hurt by people who should not have hurt me. I should have been safe being vulnerable but I found out through much pain that I was not. I have also been hurt by people I should not have been vulnerable with, people I should not have trusted.
It’s a battle inside of me. I so intensely desire to be known, but how can someone REALLY know me unless they know all, both good and bad? Pushing back on this desire is a desire for comfort and security. It often feels that I must make a choice between one or the other, but consider this: what if I could be perfectly known without any risk of harm? Would this not bring the most secure feeling possible? To be known without fear. This is what Jesus offers us. Even beyond this, because he WANTS to know us and love us for all we are, he gives us Significance. These are three deep desires all people have: relationship (to be known), significance and security. Is it any surprise that the perfect place to find this is in our Savior, the Creator and Sustainer of the universe who cares enough to DIE so that he could know us AND love us. I can’t get over this….
Part of the deep hurt I experienced from people was due to me putting all my eggs in one basket. I felt as though I NEEDED them to know and tell me I was ok so that I could actually be ok. So when they “let me down,” I was devastated. I had a right to be sad, to mourn this break in trust and loss of relationship, but my utter despair was indicative of me placing them as idols.
Only at the Cross can I be CERTAIN of Relationship, Significance and Security.”
What I love about the readers of this blog are the different backgrounds, perspectives, and belief-systems they bring. I’d love to hear what your thoughts are!